Each child is different is what they always say. I was a child development major in college. My degree is in Psychology for crying in the mud. I am suppose to know what I am doing.
But this, this is anger.
This is seeking attention, begging for attention - and the problem is, I don't really know why.
Why does he feel he has to beg for it?
I know every house has different ways of doing things, but in our house, the shelf shown below
is neatly filled with the "buckets",
sorted by style and type of toy, and only two at a time are allowed out.
Then, he said his finger hurt, and he couldn't pick them up. His finger?! Seriously - A quick little swat on the behind made him remember that he wasn't the boss, mommy is.
And as long as I sat with him, we made progress. Every time I walked away though, he quit. Yes, I know he is only four. His attention span is so very short. That is why I stayed with him, and helped him. But occasionally I had to check on the other kids, or try to catch a minute with Andy before he left for work. Zion just wanted my attention focused on him, and him alone.
Canaan knew, even at four, how to ask for my attention without destroying things. Zion doesn't seem to have that gift. Maybe it is the lack of clarity in speech? Maybe it is the competition, being the second child? Maybe, maybe, it is just how he is wired.
That is what I am trying to learn right now: "every child is different". And not only is each child different, but each minute is different too.
Because the defiant, disaster creating "don't mess with me" boy meekly ate his veggies, carried over his plate and asked nicely for dessert.
Had a slight moment of forgetting his manners at teeth brushing time, but curled up nicely for Bible and story time. He literally dragged himself to bed on his belly, complaining the whole way, but prayed so nicely and gave a generous hug and kiss.
Can you say mood swings?
Homeschool mommy is not just teaching, she is learning too.
I think it may be time for my icecream treat now...